Thursday, 13 February 2014

A Working Mum's Routine

I've been meaning to write this post sooner but the whole working mum routine is really jam packed and I've struggled to find down time some weeks.
However here's a quick update on how I'm finding things since I returned to work on January 2nd 2014.

As some might know I was able to reduce my week from a 5 day to a 4 day working week, I fought a bit to get this and for now it's working out. I'm still working 34 hours a week. I have come across a lot of comments like "Sure it's only an extra day, what's the difference?". It may seem like just an extra day to some but to me and I'm sure a lot of working mothers, that extra day means a lot! It's a chance for me to catch up on house stuff, personal stuff but most importantly it's an extra day with L. That means more to me than anything. Our time Monday - Thursday is so little that I cherish all the time I can get with him on my 3 days off. The extra day gives me a chance to attend any appointments necessary with L, I would try my best to schedule anything like that for my day off. It also means less juggling around in terms of child minding.

I know I'm extremely lucky compared to some that at the moment I do not have to pay creche fee's (honestly it's not something we could afford anyway) or worry about getting us out of the house on time. I can leave L with his Daddy in the mornings to go about his usual routine. My OH works shift work and so far his employers have been quite understanding so he generally works the days I'm off, or would start later in the afternoon which means a day or 2 here and there either my sister or mother would come in and sit with L for the 2 or 3 hours until I'm home. Nanny Neenaw (as she has been renamed!) has only had to step in for 2 full days of minding L so far. On one occasion the OH and I both had early starts so L stayed in Nanny's the night before which is a great help as well as a massive favor in allowing us to catch a full nights sleep the odd time.

I leave the house around 8.15am and I'm home again by 6pm. It's a long day to be away from L but it has to be done. I get about half an hour with him in the morning and depending on his form when I get home, I get about an hour and a half before he goes to bed. He's generally in bed by 7.20pm every night. Thankfully I get to bath him and put him to bed every night, I cherish those moments with him. I'll sit and have an extra long cuddle with him in his room on these nights.

Most evenings during the week I would be on my own as the OH is working or has football training so I spend them catching up on house work, prepping meals for L and making some attempt to get an early night. L still wakes during the night, quite a lot recently too due to sickness and teething so on the 4 nights where I have to get up early for work the next day, the OH will look after L during the night and get up with him in the morning. We swap this around then on the days I am off.

 It does feel good to be back out in the working world after maternity leave as it gives me a sense of myself outside of the "mother" role, maybe a 3 day week would be a bit better though but for now we're managing ok with the above set up.
I do feel a certain amount of guilt leaving L for so long, (but I am one of those annoying people that have a picture of their children their desk and desk top back ground so he's never far from my sight in some way! )I'd hate for him to feel like I'm not around enough but I know that if I was in position to be at home with him for these first couple of years than I would be but for now we do what we have to do to provide for our little family.

Have you returned to work recently after maternity leave? I'd love to hear your thoughts! :)



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