Tuesday, 30 July 2019

A Little Boys Independence 💙

This Summer we bit the bullet and decided Luke was allowed out to play with the other kids in the estate. It was a bit of a spur of the moment decision because we were in the garden and the other kids were playing and laughing on the bank behind our house and Luke was looking up and I could see he wanted to join in so when I asked if he wanted to go out he couldn’t quite believe what he was hearing!
I asked him did he want me to go out and ask the kids if he could play but he swiftly replied No! He told me to just stand back and watch him walk up the road. So I did and I have a perfect view from the upstairs window so I ran up there and practically hung out of it trying to listen to what was going on - slightly panicked that they might not let him play or think he was too young or wouldn’t be nice to him. 
I needn’t have worried because of course it was all fine. 
Every morning since it’s first thing he says - “Can I go out to play now?” He can’t quite understand that 8am is too early to be knocking on people’s doors! So we try to keep it to 11am or if he hears the other kids out a bit earlier he’s goes out to them. 

His confidence is after soaring, he’s so thrilled to be able to head off out without his Mum or Dad and  just hang with his friends. I’ve stood on the periphery keeping an eye and watch him as he walked right up to a group of bigger boys asking can he join in with their football game, not a bother to him. He really is thriving with his new found independence. 

As with any of these next steps though there is bound to be a few issues and there has been 1 or 2 incidents but we spoke with the parents of one child and it was all fine after. As other parents have told me though, there’s always one in the group and unfortunately this other child does seem problematic and we’ve had to keep a close eye on it. This kind of situation leads to questions like “Why don’t they like me?” or “Why are they mean to me?” - it’s hard to hear but it’s a learning curve and part of childhood and we are trying to get him to understand that not everyone will want to be his friend and we can’t explain why this other child is mean to him but we can reassure him that he does not have to listen to or be around this other child if he doesn’t want to be and that when he’s out there he can play with who he likes not who this child thinks he should play with etc

It’s a whole new territory for us and him and he will be learning the first of many life lessons while he’s out and about but it’s all part of growing up. 

We weren’t going to let him out for another year but I’m so glad we have because it really lived up his Summer and he’s so happy when his new friends call to the door or invite him into their houses. I also don’t know myself with the 5 minutes peace either! 

It’s very much one of those moments that has crept up on us without us being quite ready emotionally, a bit like when he gave up the bottle or handed me his dummy to say he didn’t need it anymore - these years really are flying by!


Saturday, 13 July 2019

Hello Again ❣

I've dusted off my corner of the world wide web and my word, it was very dusty! 
I can't remember the last time I sat down to write a personal post, I've had posts whirling around in my head for months but I've not quite managed to type them out.

I don't recall where we were at since my last post but life around here has been busy and for the first time in a long time I feel like there is some calm in my world and I'm finally getting a chance to spend time doing some of the things I love. It's so easy to get bogged down by the comings and goings of everyday life or get sucked in to focusing on the negatives or trying to change things that just aren't meant to be changed right now. 

In recent months I have ran for local elections, an unforgettable experience, something that was way more intense than I ever imagined it would be but I'm so glad I did it. I've met so many people through that experience that have impacted on me in many ways and I've discovered a renewed love for my beautiful hometown of Cobh - walking the campaign trail brought me to previously unseen places of Cobh and I'm more grateful than ever that I get to call this place home. 

I've changed jobs in recent weeks too. A big, scary step for me as I had been in my previous job for almost 11 years and was very much in my comfort zone. I'd kind of decided about a year and a half ago that it was time for me to move on but I had to find something that would be right me and when the time was right too. I was the consistent earner while the OH was in college so I had to keep that stability going but when he secured a new job in January it meant that it gave me a chance to start looking. So in June, on Luke's birthday actually, after 5 interview steps, I was offered the job. More suitable hours, more money, an extra day off each week, more time with my family and not having to deal with the public - honestly, even though I'm only there a few weeks I can't begin to explain the positive effect it has had on my life, my mental health most importantly. I was terrified to take that step towards change but I'm so glad I did. 

We now have a 6 year old who is going on 16! This Summer is the first one we have let him out to play in the estate. It wasn't planned but he was in our garden the other week and all the other kids were playing on the bank behind us and he was just watching them so I felt a bit bad for him so decided to see how he'd get on out there too. Needless to say he was thrilled with himself, I had to hang back so as not to cramp his style! I spent the entire time he was out there watching him from the upstairs window but he got on fine and made friends straight away, now every morning he asks can he go out first thing. 

Living up to my blog name, I've added 2 more tattoo's to the collection in recent months -  it had been absolutely ages since I'd got my last one before that. The first of the 2 was 6 hours in the making and I had forgotten just how tough on the 'ol body it was to sit for that long but it was well worth it. That one was done by Gary Morris of Killswitch Ink , we had been talking about me getting a tattoo of his for a long time and I was delighted with how it turned out. The second of the 2 I picked up at this years Midleton tattoo show from Cuchulainn Tattoos. I've already got more planned once I have the funds!

So yeah that's been my life recently. Things are definitely on the up for us and it really feels like we've entered into a new phase of our life adventure. 

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